Mrs. Kravitz…where are you when we need you?

For those of you who may not be old enough, at least 55 years old, or don’t watch too many old television shows, let me explain who Mrs. Kravitz is. For those who do know who she is, forgive this indulgence. I will try to convey these thoughts succinctly.

On the television show Bewitched, in the mid to late 60s, Samantha Stevens was a witch married to a mortal, much to the chagrin of her parents & they made her husband rue the day he did at times. Mrs. Kravitz was a neighbor who pushed her nose into, literally, everyone’s business in the neighborhood. She went far and beyond the busybody of another sitcom’s. She spied on her neighbors for her own uses. No one who heard her rantings believed a word of what she said. Now that I’ve spent time on that…

It is unfortunate, but in this world of workplace/school violence (WPV/SV), terrorism, and the myriad of other life altering and bankrupting crimes in our culture, we need people like Mrs. Kravitz to be around us. Someone who watches over the neighborhood and spots anything that is remotely suspicious, even if the possibility is a remote one.

Do we need someone like her, or a crotchety old man, to call the police, FBI, DHS, or some other alphabet soup governmental agency to report what they see? Not necessarily every single time. But like a good geneticist or Audabon Society member they need to keep a meticulous notebook of their observations.

Yes, I know the arguments against nosy neighbors and spying on them and meticulously kept notebooks. It’s reminiscent of a communistic or totalitarian society. And if it gets too far out of hand with literally everyone spying on each other, then no it’s not a good thing, not by a long shot.

But we’re talking about people stepping onto the field and getting into the game to prevent any of the crimes I mentioned above. Many of those crimes can be prevented, or lessen the fatalities or losses, by people being nosy and spying on their neighbors. Mrs. Kravitz was deemed a rude busybody with a rich imagination. And it was funny to watch her get befuddled on numerous occasions and trying to convince Abner, her husband, of what she was witnessing. It was hilarious back then, but threateningly deadly serious today.

The old cliché, which I certainly believe is ignored 99% of the time, of see something say something needs to be strengthened and put into a way that everyone will pay attention & follow. The issue with not saying something if they see something is fairly simple and you can confirm this yourself by listening to the news and asking your friends.

In addition to the many excuses that people use to not tell the employer or school administration about something that may happen, it is the idea of being pegged as a racist, bigot, & trouble maker.  Not to mention being labeled not politically correct. Anyone who is not PC is labeled as a racist or bigot by the media, liberals, and innumerable other groups with an ideological political agenda.

Let me refresh your memory about the woman in San Bernardino who didn’t want to be accused of profiling people. So, she didn’t report the ant’s nest of activity at the house where the Islamic terrorists lived. Nor did she report on the number of different cars & the late night visits from…

It comes down to saving lives. It’s not as simple as banning firearms. No one wants to see, or hear about, someone dying because of a firearm. It doesn’t matter your political persuasion, Republican or Democrat, and belief system in the Constitution, malleable instrument or not.  No one wants that, except a few ideological extremists Christian or Muslim or, pardon the expression and not being PC, whack jobs who want to even a score on someone.

The great work of the Guardian Angels, the group formed by Curtis Sliwa, from 20 odd years ago or the neighborhood watch areas within cities were the same thing as Mrs. Kravitz. They stood watch over us and either wrote something suspicious down or called the police. And we need more citizens to do this.

If we can get more people to be like the old school style of Mrs. Kravitz we would be so much better off in this world. Do I mean that you should start snooping around people’s backyards, looking through windows, or going through their garbage? Of course not. But what you do need to do is pay attention to the neighborhood, which includes coworkers and other students.

Is someone sitting in a vehicle and idling for an indeterminate amount of time? Is someone cruising the block slowing down in front of houses with no For Sale sign in the yard? See some stranger walking slowly and seeming to take notes about certain houses? Call the police and let them investigate.

It may be nothing, but do you really want to take the chance that one of your neighbors will be broken into? And if you spot the 22 warning signs of someone ready to perpetrate a WPV/SV incident then don’t rationalize it, say something. Will they be mad at you, probably, but is it worth saving a life?

Oh Mrs. Kravits where are you when we need you to teach this country a thing or two about being watchful, helpful, and being a complete total pain in the ass by spying on us?

Robert D. Sollars assists organizations to safeguard the lives of their employees & students to lessen their risk of violence and other security/customer service related issues with time tested and proven ideas. You can follow him on his website, twitter@robertsollars2, e-mail at or call him at 480-251-5197.

He is the author of 2 books on preventing violence in both schools and businesses:

Never to Grow-Up: Preventing Violence in our Schools

One is too Many: Recognizing & Preventing Workplace Violence

both available on Amazon. His upcoming book will be available in May, watch for more details on

Murder in the Classroom: A Practical Guide for Prevention

I May be Blind but my Vision is Crystal Clear


Permission to reprint? Of course, with these guidelines; the original content must be printed in full with original wording, with grammatical corrections, and full attribution.

Copyright 2018 Robert D. Sollars

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